Var-sha

He Was Everything… Except Real Love – My Story of Narcissistic Abuse & Self-Love “I gave him control thinking he'd stay — but he still left.” This is my healing journey after a narcissistic relationship—how I lost myself, and then found love again in the most unexpected place: myself . When Love Felt Like Control I’m writing this… not as a victim, but as someone who survived something no one warned me about — a narcissist. At first, he was perfect. He said all the right things. He made me feel like I was the only one who mattered. And I believed it. Signs I Ignored in a Narcissistic Relationship Slowly, something changed. His love felt like a mirror — it only reflected him. When I needed him — he was “busy.” When I cried — I was “too sensitive.” When I succeeded — he felt “ignored.” When I asked for respect — I was “dramatic.” The Breaking Point Still, I stayed. I bent myself. I made myself smaller. I said sorry, even when I was hurt. I gave him co...

" Now, I've taken back the love I had lost for myself ." There was a time when I had lost myself completely in someone else's love… I had forgotten my own identity. His smile, his messages, his presence — That had become my whole world. But when he left… It wasn’t just a person who walked away. My smile, my peace, and even my sense of self — all vanished with him. Every day I would scold myself — "Why am I not enough? Why am I always ignored? Why didn’t I get back the love I gave?" But in all those tears, one truth was quietly whispering — "You gave love, but forgot to love yourself." So what did I do next? I forgave myself. I asked my past to pause a while. I looked in the mirror and told myself — "You are enough. Your worth isn’t defined by anyone’s acceptance. Now, you are your own companion." The love I once begged for from others — I now started giving it to...

" Love yourself …" I had heard this line many times. But I truly understood what it means only when I was completely broken… and still, I stood up again – all by myself. I reached a point in life where I had lost myself in loving someone else. I lived, behaved, and even tolerated things only for them – ignoring my own heart. I believed that if I gave love, I would receive it too. But that never happened. I gave love, I gave my time, I gave understanding… And still, one day, that person walked away. No goodbye, no explanation, no turning back. That’s when I realised – Losing yourself while loving someone else… that’s not love. That’s self-betrayal. That day, I cried. I broke down. But at one moment, I looked into the mirror… And I saw that girl – still standing there. Hurt, yes. But there was still a little hope in her eyes. From that day, I started walking… back towards myself. I began waking up for me ....

    The Invisible Struggle Whether you are a student, a parent, an employee or a retiree—mental health is important for everyone. It is not just freedom from illness, but emotional balance, resilience and a sense of purpose in life. Yet, it is often overlooked or misunderstood.                                                          Why is mental health important? Mental health affects the way we think, feel and behave. It helps us cope with stress, maintain relationships and make decisions. Just like it is important to take care of physical health, it is also important to take care of mental health. Eliminating stigma Mental health problems are common, but stigma keeps people silent. Opening up and showing empathy creates an environment where it's easier to ask for help. Common mental health conditions: A closer look Millions of pe...